Everyone has that one friend that can turn any conversation into something dirty.
Hi, My name is Tiffany and I’m THAT friend.
Like most women with PCOS, I have battled with depression and anxiety. I was always handed a prescription, advised to relax and try Yoga.
Well, I don’t like Yoga.
But I did find something I DO like that is more beneficial than any pill.
That’s right. SEX and what I like to call the O-Mazing Orgasm.
I am mentally, emotionally, physically HAPPY and peaceful, dare I say I feel downright O-Mazing?
I want you to feel the same way so I have scoured the research on SEX and its effects on the female body for this blog. Yes, I know that talking about SEX is taboo, but I guess I am just too happy to care. With that said, I hope you’ll keep reading and add an O-Mazing Orgasm to your PCOS fighting regime. PCOS is an evil little troll that affects all aspects of our lives… if we let it.
The insecurity, fatigue, pain, and discomfort that come with PCOS will keep women from having sex or feeling sexual. It is a vicious cycle and I believe it starts and ends with that MEAN voice we use to address ourselves internally.
“I don’t want to see myself naked, I don’t want to show him!”
“I’m fat, unattractive, insecure and I need to lose weight.”
Well, guess what…
SEX is exercise.
It’s one of the only physical activities we can participate in that uses all 600 of our muscles and all 5 of our senses. You can burn anywhere from 80 to 300 calories during sex. Of course, this depends on duration and “effort” just like any other physical activity. If you’re flying solo then use that fabulous imagination and change up positions before you reach that O-Mazing place. If you’re a part of a team then I urge you to be a team captain and take charge.
If Cardiologists consider SEX a cardio workout then YOU should too. They have degrees and stuff, so let’s take their word on this topic and get physical.
During sex, we produce a hormone called DHEA (dehydroepiandrosterone) an immune system booster that also helps decrease depression. DHEA sound familiar to you?
It’s a common ingredient in anti-aging moisturizers. So exciting! Sex can save you money on beauty products, by giving your skin that healthy radiant glow making you look better all while you burn calories! It’s crazy, I know!
Wait… it gets O – so much better…
“I’m too tired to have sex.”
You may be fatigued because you have insomnia that’s likely caused by fluctuating hormones.
An Orgasm may be exactly what you need! Orgasms release a chemical called Prolactin, which helps us get to sleep and stay asleep. As long as your pre-bedtime SEX is “low impact” you’ll find it easier to drift off to Wonder Land with a smile on your face.
“I have a headache.”
“I have cramps.”
“I don’t feel well.”
Seriously, who hasn’t ever spoken those words? You won’t feel like getting busy every night of the week but you should know that SEX might provide more relief than anything else you’re doing. The endorphins released during sex mimic the effects of Morphine.
This means you’ll be making your very own pain reliever that helps relieve cramps which in turn helps with heavy periods. That O-Mazing “hug hormone” Oxytocin, joins the party during sex. It makes you feel happy, connected and in love.
Still not convinced that SEX will help you feel better? The researchers at Wilkes University, Pennsylvania found that SEX actually increases an antibody called Immunoglobulin A (IgA) – which is known to boost our immune systems. Sounds like it might be better than a flu shot, no?
“I’m just not into it”
Listen, I get it. PCOS, cysts, endometriosis, tilted uterus and a myriad of other problems can keep you on the proverbial bench. I have two clichés that I’m going to leave you with…
“If you don’t use it, you lose it.”
Researchers have found that the more SEX we have, the more SEX we want. This is because SEX also promotes the release of other hormones like testosterone and estrogen. It increases the blood flow to the area which improves vaginal lubrication and elasticity. This means that if you’ve lost it, you can get it back!
“Where there’s a will, there’s a way.”
Switch up positions with your partner and find one that is comfortable for you. This opens up the lines of communication in the bedroom, strengthens trust and will ultimately have a positive effect on your relationship outside of the bedroom. Men are “fixers”, this is multiplied by the millions when it comes to SEX and the woman they love.
SEX is an intimate act regardless of whether you’re doing it with a partner or alone. PCOS can make us feel “Less than”, keeping us from being intimate and that’s terrible! That might be what I hate most about this disorder. Whether you’re struggling with infertility, or feel like the person you love doesn’t understand your day to day pain, you are NOT less than.
So with all of the Omazing reasons I listed that SEX is good for you, loving yourself is the most important of all. I’m not 100% sure which came first for me, my self-love or the sex… I guess all that matters is that I got there… and you do too.
Tiffany Whitby born and raised in Central Illinois. I’m an artist, student, wannabe blogger, and most importantly a stay at home mom working for an incredible 4-year-old. I was always the perfect patient and never questioned my Doctor’s advice. Now I’m 6 months post partial hysterectomy and learning everything I can about PCOS and questioning everything I was ever taught.
From PCOS to perfect health, with love,
Dr. Rebecca Harwin
The PCOS Expert
Chiropractor & Bestselling Author of
Conquer Your PCOS Naturally
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connie b says
That was quite interesting to learn all the benefits of staying in the O. I never knew all of the benefits like the hormone releases and the mimic of morphine. Sex should be the drug of choice.
Dr Rebecca Harwin says
It is interesting! It’s a much better choice than many others Connie 🙂
Amen to that. I also find sex to be an O mazing feel good healthy booster. Here I was thinking it was just me who felt these things. After a good romp even my hubby tells me I look younger, I actually feel well, happy, and yes sleep like a baby. Sex totally agrees with me.
We all get self conscience , but by being honest and sharing your feelings makes you closer. Truth is, I don’t look like I did when I was 20, but the man I married, married me for more than my smoking butt. Turns out he sees past my body.
I shall share a secret, when I have sex it is the only time I actually feel sexy. You are free to disappear into a feel good fantasy, and it is so liberating. Just allow yourself to enjoy the feelings. Trust me, your partner will love that you are enjoying it. It will boost his ego, and yours too. Not to mention that it will bring you closer together.
Sex is good for your health. The closer you get, the more experience and comfortable you become with your loving partner, the more amazing your orgasms become. Now that I am no longer hung up on my weight, sex is amazingly good.
I’m overweight and can’t feel any pleasure also What should I eat to help me lose weight
Dr Rebecca Harwin says
I’m sorry to hear that, it’s such a common and frustrating issue.
If you visit http://www.successfulpcosweightloss.com you can download a report I wrote about this for free. There is also quite a lot of information on this site, in my book Conquer Your PCOS Naturally and on my Facebook.com/ConquerYourPCOS page that will help you.
I promise, it is possible to lose weight with PCOS x
I do have a question about the part of estrogen and testosterone being released during sex. Overall, I do agree that sex has so many benefits but with most PCOSers aren’t those the two things that we want to reduce?
Chitra Singh says
I can’t imagine having sex during pain (PCOS) but I’m a really sexual person at the same time. I really don’t understand what am I suppose to do? Should I choose sex over pain? I so want to but I can’t. Pain after having sex is sometimes unbearable for me. But the next day I want sex again. I don’t know what to do!
Dr Rebecca Harwin says
The first step is to see your doctor. Often we can blame PCOS for every health issue, but pain during sex could be because of another problem.
All the best.
Kaaviya Sathya Narayanan says
Actually that worked for me and I’m cured of my PCOS..! Yay..!!!
Rebecca Harwin says
Always good to have pieces of the puzzle that work 🙂
Thank you for the article. I truly believe the same thing. I dont know if anyone else noticed but PCOS women have extra pheromones and people are actually naturally attracted to us, even though we dont feel that way.
I also have a crazy sex drive. I have 57% LHI